My moment at 8.49am on Tuesday 30 October

Day-to-day there are 1000’s of moments during which we have choices and make decisions, from the mundane to those which can change how we feel about life and what we do.

Sitting on a beach at 8:49am in Moraira, Spain on Tuesday 30 October, I had such a moment.  Enjoying the peace and warmth of the morning sun, I decided I would go for it and start the process for setting up a micro-business to support and encourage parents. I have been surprised at the difference this decision has made, having a new focus has made me happier!

Having finished work at the end of August, I have been enjoying a new life of being “a lady who lunches”! I have loved the novelty of having time to do stuff I want to however, if I was being honest with myself, I did feel a little lost.

I felt myself drifting and struggling with not having a focus – you can only clean and tidy the house so many times and I had even started rolling clothes, watch out Marie Kondo!

During September, as my energy levels returned so did my mojo and I knew there was something missing but wasn’t convinced I had the energy or motivation to set up a new business because life at home was so easy.

As I am discovering, it is a very different experience being at home full-time, I used to dream about it when I worked full-time and now recognise that it has its own pressures and it isn’t quite what you expect it to be.

So, even though I was enjoying myself, if I was being honest, I didn’t find it as satisfying as I expected and found not achieving much frustrating.

I knew that if I was going to keep going I would need to include the things I enjoy doing, which include:

  • Parenting with all its challenges and rewards.
  • Managing staff and seeing them flourish and thrive, making a positive difference in people’s lives in the workplace.
  • Leadership development and coaching (remarkably similar to parenting).
  • Reading, researching and understanding people and behaviour – trying to understand why we and others behave the way we do and how we can change behaviour using the latest research and evidence.
  • Developing and running my own parenting workshops.
  • Having cups of tea/coffee and chatting with family and friends!

So, why wouldn’t I take the next step to set up my business and make my hobby my Plan A. Combining all the things I enjoy into creating a face-to-face focused business aiming to encourage parents and providing common sense advice over cups of tea/coffee and cake (of course!)– focusing on helping them feel better about themselves in their day-to-day parenting.

I know I have so much I can share to help parents get a better understanding of why their children behave the way they do as well as why they parent the way they do, practical advice to help when things go wrong as well as how to build resilience and cope with anxiety and other mental health challenges.

Everything I talk about and share is always grounded in evidence – I do the reading research, distil the key learning points, apply common sense and then share my learning with parents during my Parenting Cafés and hopefully future courses.

I want to create something parents want and look forward to! I know that putting parents at the heart of everything I do is key, which is why I am planning to write a regular blog about my experiences in setting up my new business.

So, this week I have started setting goals for myself and filling in my new weekly planner. 

In my study, I now have a bowl of 365 marbles and take one marble out each day so I can reflect on what I have achieved as well as lessons learnt. I don’t know where this exciting journey will take me but at least my days should no longer drift…

About Ruth James

I am a mum with 3 daughters who runs workshops for parents of teenagers. In 2019 I launched the Taunton Parenting Cafe and will be developing new and innovative workshops to support and encourage parents of children from 9yrs+
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